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Ted Haggard is sinking lower and lower. Yesterday, he appeared on Oprah. Tonight, it’s Larry King. And also tonight, it’s “The Trials of Ted Haggard” on HBO (I don’t have HBO, so won’t be watching). Ted “wants to tell his story.” He’s doing this, he says, because he wants people to know “who he is.”
As I blogged on Saturday, all of this is occurring against the backdrop of new accusations regarding Ted’s sexual escapades with a parishioner that were kept secret until last week. The parishioner was a man in his 20’s when he and Ted played around. Since then, the church’s insurance company made an undisclosed financial pay-out to the parishioner. We’ve been told it was for counseling and college tuition.
I saw the Oprah interview. It convinced me that Haggard is more delusional than I even imagined. He reminded me of Illinois Governor Blagojevitch. Clueless.
He also reminded me of the Old Testament King Saul. You can read more about King Saul in I Samuel 15. I’ll spare you verse-by-verse exposition. When King Saul was confronted with his sin, he simply did three things. So does Haggard. You can read what King Saul did in the Bible, but what Haggard did is public knowledge.
1. He Denies It
Repeatedly, Haggard lied to reporters in the early hours of this breaking scandal. Over and over. “I don’t know the guy. I didn’t buy the meth. I bought it but threw it out. I only used it once. I didn’t have sexual contact. I only got a massage!”
2. He Rationalizes It
Haggard says he’s now faced the fact that this is “who he is.” In a sickening high-five moment with Oprah, she makes the point that the “real problem” was not his gayness but that he lied about it. Wait. Being this way was OK, but he shouldn’t have lied? In an even more sickening moment, Haggard’s daughter says she “never had a Dad to whom she could relate,” but now since this happened, she can relate to him. Oh, I get it, he has a better relationship with his daughter, so that’s a “positive” in all of this? He’s “glad it happened” because of all the good that is coming from it. And…in his admission about the latest scandal, Haggard seems compelled to make the point that he didn’t touch the young man. As though that makes his hotel room perversion and a thousand sexually explicit text messages somehow more palatable. Rationalizations gone wild!
3. He Blames Others
Haggard referenced childhood sexual abuse - that was pleasurable – while on Oprah. Subtly, ever so subtly, this places the blame elsewhere. I know people who have been sexually abused. Their life choices are not uncontrollably defined by that experience. Haggard implies that his was. Oh, and he also blames the church leaders. In fact, in the clip from the documentary I saw, he says, “They told me to go to hell.” Leaders who were trying to protect the church and Haggard and his family made choices that Haggard didn’t like. So, he blames them.
There is so much more. Haggard never said the word “sin” about himself. He ignored biblical and theological categories. He pandered to Oprah and her audience. He demeaned godly leaders who came into the mess to rescue the church. He muddled around trying to explain his sexuality. He whined about not being able to address the church publicly, prior to leaving.
Just like King Saul, Haggard is revealing all the reasons why he is unfit to lead God’s people.
And incidentally, if you want a Biblical model for how to respond when confronted by your sin, check out King David. When Nathan confronted David and said, “You are the man,” David didn’t lie, rationalize, or blame others – he simply said, “I have sinned.” We can only imagine how different things would be for Haggard and New Life Church had he emulated King David rather than King Saul.